“My mom and dad smoked cigarettes, so I also smoke cigarettes.”
“My mom and dad always smoked cigarettes, so I never smoked cigarettes.”
Nothing makes you a victim of anything except your own mindset. Every day when you wake up, you have a choice. You are not “stuck” in a relationship and you are not “stuck” in a job. You are stuck in your own mind and afraid to change. You are not a victim of your circumstances unless you choose to be one.