There is a book that is the best book I ever read, called “Non-Violent Communication.”

99% of all conflicts are due to a lack of better communication. When you stop talking “to” the person you have a problem with and start talking to “everyone else” about them instead, you are on the path to the dark. Gossip stems from the seed of fear. Fear might just be the root of all evil. In fact, in the real original Bible, it says more than any other phrase, “Do not be afraid.”

Out of the seed of fear come the stems of jealousy, frustration, anger, resentment, suspicion, doubt, hate, and eventually it all leads to suffering. If you don’t stop it, it just grows in your mind until it eats away at everything in you and even pushes the people you wanted to love you and that you love away from you.

Compassion, kindness, forgiveness, understanding, and love. These things are the opposite of fear, and they are just as powerful motivators if you grow and develop them.